giving to ourselves in all seasons

Oct 2

I’m a single mom.

With two elementary-aged boys—who are vibrant, energetic, and absolutely full of life. They keep me on my toes and, like most kids their age, require a whole lot of my energy, attention, and love. And I wouldn’t trade it for anything.

But where does that leave me? Where does it leave you?

How do we give ourselves the same energy, attention, and love that we so freely give to everyone else?

There Is No One-Size-Fits-All

I’m still figuring that part out. If you’ve cracked the code, I’m all ears. But my guess? We’re in similar boats. Not the same make or model—but still floating together, trying to stay upright. (And yes, the boat metaphor is intentional. My husband loved boats. 🛥️)

Since launching Journey Through Bliss, I’ve found myself thinking more deeply about what it really means to give to ourselves and what the soul-level desired outcome is. Healing? Growth? Becoming? Solidarity?

Well, only you know the answer to that. But what I do know is that there are so many different ways to walk your path, and ultimately land exactly where you’re meant to.

It’s not a one-size-fits-all situation. Which is a good thing. Because that would make this all so boring and predictable. And who wants that?!

Ok, maybe a little bit of boring would be nice. But I digress…

Our paths are indeed filled with chaos, but also so much beauty. The beauty that reveals itself in the unraveling. The wisdom that comes when we don’t feel ready, but start anyway. The clarity that emerges only when we listen. Really listen.

Yea, I know. It’s a lot easier to just ignore all of that woo-woo stuff. But it’s why we’re here.

Since launching Journey Through Bliss, I’ve found myself thinking more deeply about what it really means to give to ourselves and what the soul-level desired outcome is.

The Practice That Carried Me—Until It Didn’t

Here’s the truth I’ve been circling around (and living), again and again: we are complex, beautiful beings—needing to constantly shift, modulate and adapt to each chapter—sometimes each moment—of our life.

Certain practices, movement, places—even some people—may serve you in different chapters of your life, and then all of a sudden be completely unavailable to you, or become a detriment to your journey. Because what supports us in one season might feel suffocating the next.

That doesn’t mean you’re doing it wrong. It means you’re paying attention to the change within and around you.

Let’s ground this in an example: a couple months before my husband passed, I felt a deep pull to initiate a very regular morning practice into my day. I woke up at 6 a.m. daily–meditated, did breathwork, journaled, moved, and visualized. It was exactly what I needed as I moved through the heaviest, hardest time of my life.

Even my Oura ring agreed—my biometrics were on point. Solid sleep, steady cycles, strong HRV (heart rate variation).

My nervous system knew. My body knew. My soul knew. And thank God I listened. Because if I hadn’t started a practice that would fuel me for the coming months, I would have broken.

And then, when everything fell apart… so did the practice.

Not out of failure or neglect, but because my body simply couldn’t do it anymore. I needed sleep. Silence. Space to grieve, integrate and just be. So I let it go. I listened again. And I adjusted.

Here’s the truth I’ve been circling around (and living), again and again: we are complex, beautiful beings—needing to constantly shift, modulate and adapt. What supports us in one season might feel suffocating the next.

This Work Doesn’t Start When You’re Ready—It Starts When You Begin

This is the part I really want you to hear:

We don’t need more tools or checklists–unless they are serving us.
We don’t need another breakthrough or perfect routine–unless they are supporting us.

What we need is to know how to process and integrate life, in all its complexity. And we need to learn how to listen and feel into what’s actually true in our bodies.

We don’t start this work because life aligned perfectly and we finally have time for it. It happens in the middle of the mess–when you are so far from ready, or so scared, you could scream. It happens when all you have is the whisper to go inward… and the courage to follow it.

It starts when you choose to listen. And when you do, things begin to shift. Maybe not instantly, maybe not dramatically. But slowly, subtly.

So here is your reminder, from my boat to yours:
Stop waiting–now is the time.
Start listening–something is calling to you.
Do the damn thing–no more excuses.

All my love and soul,

Courtney

About the author

Hey there

I’m Courtney

I’m the founder of Journey Through Bliss, a movement and community dedicated to helping women return to themselves while navigating the beautiful, busy complexity of modern life. As a Somatic Soulwork Facilitator and Multi-Modality Guide, I support women in restoring their nervous system safety, reconnecting with their intuition, and integrating diverse healing practices without overwhelm.

None of this is about abandoning responsibilities—it’s about cultivating rhythms, rituals, and relationships that help women thrive right where they are. Having walked my own path through loss, motherhood, and rebuilding, I offer both grounded tools and soulful expansion. Through programs, events, workshops and community spaces, I invite women to experience the clarity, confidence, and bliss that comes from living in alignment with their true selves.

Whether online or in person, I promise to do my best to provide safe, inclusive, and deeply rooted spaces—where women feel seen, supported, and celebrated as they awaken to who they really are.

I do this work based on a simple, but radical belief: we were all born with magic. We just forgot. And remembering is always worth it.